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Healing Power of the Mind – Using Mind Power to Heal Illnesses

admin — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 03:28:24 +0000

Do you ever wonder why some cancer victims heal and recover from their illnesses while some don’t? Do you ever wonder what defines the difference between these two kinds of cancer-afflicted people? It is true that those who have been healed have a secret: the healing power of the mind. The healing power of the mind is not a mysterious thing that can be activated by gibberish and mumbo-jumbo rituals and words. The healing power of the mind is actually based on one thing: positive thinking.

Maybe you’re thinking that these people are super-optimists. No they are not. They too, have had their share of discouragement and had reacted accordingly. They too had felt that life had been unfair to them.

But what is crucial to their recovery is the realization that they can actually choose not to continue to feel the negative way that they do. You too can make use of the healing power of the mind. Let me show you how.

1) Accept that you have an illness.

Seem absurd? Actually, it’s not. Life’s problems are not solved by denying their existence. On the contrary, they are made worse through denial, because they aren’t being dealt with. The most important step you can take in healing would be to accept your present circumstance, but to positively expect that you can heal yourself using the powers of your mind.

2) Do something about it.

Get treatment; research your options for the treatment of your illness. Getting treatment lets you assume control over your life again. This diminishes the feeling of helplessness; thus, you can start to think clearly, do what needs to be done, and make the most out of your days.

3) Take comfort in a Higher Power.

Studies have proved that those who believe in a Higher Power tend to heal faster. The trust that though they are helpless, someone has control over their lives and He ultimately would see them through, makes people less anxious, freeing their system to self-heal faster.

The mind is a terrible thing, some people said. Actually, as you’ve seen here, the healing power of the mind can be unlocked so easily. Follow these steps, and you can harness this power.

By: Michael Lee

Prove You Love Me – Four Tips on Unhooking From the Power Struggle

admin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 00:17:30 +0000

A savage bile rose in Tanya’s throat as she heard Martin talk to his mother on the phone. His patient, understanding and placating voice made Tanya want to cut the wire on the land line and smash up his cell phone. She wanted to feel his soft responsiveness – she wanted to be his one and only. Despite five years of living with Martin, Tanya was still competing with Martin’s mother for the top spot in his attentions. Tanya reached boiling point after being ignored by Martin’s mother at a family gathering. It made her feel as unimportant and insignificant as the day her single mother took her at the age of six to live with an aunt, and disappeared. Martin’s promises to stand up for her, and his lame efforts to make sure she was recognized as his partner were as hollow as her mother’s promise to come back for her.

Family life and responsibilities were cut and dried for Tanya. There was only one family portrait that was worth hanging on the wall. The zoom lens captured Martin and Tanya holding hands, with everyone else in the background. This was the fight of her life. It was her chance to insist on having a relationship on her terms, canceling out the helplessness she felt as a child.

Martin was attracted to Tanya’s strong will, determination and independence. He envied her confidence to do as she pleased. He loved her ability to be direct and up front about what she thought and felt. There was something comforting in her certainty. Ever since his father died Martin had been the man in the family. He basked under the crown of maternal adoration, yet dreamed of being bold enough to be his own man. Each time the waves of independence crested inside him, they immediately crashed on the sands of guilt, and the threat of losing his mother.

” I expect you to be with me at my office awards function tomorrow” Tanya threw out at Martin as he got off the phone with his mother.

” Look Tanya, I know it is an important day for you, but my mother isn’t doing well. Her blood pressure is up, and I need to take her to the doctor ” replied Martin pleading to be let off the hook.

” Her blood pressure is always high, and you fall for it every time! What about my blood pressure? I’m sick of playing second fiddle. I don’t know how much more of this I can take. If you care about our future together, you will come to my office party tomorrow ” Tanya snarled back.

” She doesn’t always report the side effects of her medication so I need to be there to get it all straight. You know I can’t be fully present with you if I am worrying about her.” Martin said, ending the battle.

Seething with anger and humiliation Tanya stormed off. For the next few days she donned the hat of supreme self-reliance banishing Martin from her heart and mind. As time wore on, Martin felt depleted. Playing the responsible son didn’t feel so good anymore. He had lost his life line to his partner, the symbol of his position as a mature man in the world. Struggling with feelings of shame and self-disgust he made frantic efforts to penetrate Tanya’s well sealed sanctuary.

In her fortress Tanya shifted from righteous indignation towards loneliness and hurt. She spurned Martin’s efforts to repair the breach, until hurt and isolation overwhelmed her pride. Eventually their mutual hunger to restore the status quo propelled them to forgive one and other. Both vowed to be more understanding and supportive during times of conflict.

Martin’s Deal

• He feels very little power in his life, fearing being engulfed by women.

• When his mother’s pull feels suffocating, he sways towards Tanya, borrowing from her independent streak.

• Stifled by Tanya’s demands, he uses his filial duties as an escape route.

• Having two women to answer to means neither can possess him or swallow him alive.

• He gets his power from frustrating both women while keeping the lions share of himself for himself.

Tanya’s Deal

• She feels very little power in her life, fearing being unworthy of true long term commitment.

• When Martin chooses his mother over her, fear burns fiercely, and she becomes even more demanding.

• She is envious of the close bond Martin has with his mother, something she was robbed of with her own mother.

• Having full ownership of Martin’s time is the only proof of love she is willing to accept, reducing her chances of receiving what Martin is able to give.

• She feels her power through exercising what she feels are legitimate demands.

Both Tanya and Martin share a sense of powerlessness. Tanya has gained full independence from her family which becomes the hook that Martin gets caught on. It’s what he wants too but is too scared to allow himself. So he gets it vicariously from Tanya. In Tanya’s case she wants evidence of commitment so who better to try and get it from than a man who is tied to his mother. What a prize that would be!

Unhooking from the power pegs

• Martin has to develop boundaries that are able to safeguard him from fear of being engulfed.

• Martin needs to experiment with acting on his own initiative and build his emotional muscles

• Tanya needs to play with her definition of love, making it more elastic and allowing for ebbs and flows depending on circumstance

• Tanya needs to tell herself that she doesn’t have to win a war in order to be worthy of being loved.

Copyright Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

By: Jeanette Raymond

The Power Lift Chair & Other Mobility Devices

admin — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:29:08 +0000

Just imagine what happens when an individual suffering from arthritis gets up from the toilet seat and ends up with a feeling of helplessness and not to forget the stress he causes on his joints. The diminishing strength in his feet, ankles, legs traps him and he has to be embarrassed as he is dependent on someone else to lift him up. In such situations a power lift chair can be a blessing in disguise.

A power lift chair is specially designed assistive equipment that helps individuals with limited mobility to have an independent and comfortable life. Apart from the comfort, these lift chairs are quite safe to use. They also come in attractive designs and colors. Most of them are usually lightweight and easy to use. They are also portable and can be placed anywhere quite easily.

Unlike regular lift chairs, these chairs have a built-in motor that changes the position of the seat from a sitting down one to a complete upright position. These chairs are specially designed to prevent them from folding down on the individual or tipping over. While most lift chairs have two positions, such as upright and sitting down, these chairs have a three way position and it can generally hold about 375 pounds. However, if an individual is heavy, he can have a custom designed chair to suit his weight. These medical devices are quite inexpensive and can be easily added to your home along a stairway if you need to use one on a regular basis. They can be used at homes, clinics, hospitals and in community buildings.

Most chair lifts come with a fully adjustable recliner, handheld controls and terrific comfort. The seat support system is such that it will not sag. The best part of these chairs is their safety mechanism. These chairs have the best wiring safety to prevent any electrical hazards. In addition, they are quite durable and sturdy thanks to the heavy duty steel wheel bearing.

Among the best power lift chair are the Monarch Medium and Monarch Large Size chairs. The Monarch Medium is a medium size lift chair that has the capacity to lift 375 pounds. The chair has a width of 21 inches between the arms and it also has an ultra soft back pillow with Golden Technologies lift chairs plush seat and arms. This mechanically sound chair is built to last a life time. It is considered to be one of the best functional power lift chairs.

The Monarch Large is a better choice if you prefer a big sized chair. It has a 3-position recline and is extremely comfortable. If you are a bit overweighed and have a height between 5’11″ and 6’2″, you would be better off selecting this chair. It is available in 7 beautiful color and the built-in side pockets are really nice and easy to reach.

Power lift chairs are also available in different models and come in a variety of fabrics. The fabrics and models can be selected from various websites that sell these chairs. All you need to do is click on the color pattern and the chair will be delivered to your doorsteps.

By: Ronald Rougeaux